{"id":44528,"date":"2017-07-17T07:00:28","date_gmt":"2017-07-17T07:00:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dev.withjoy.com\/blog2\/?p=44528"},"modified":"2020-08-18T07:57:21","modified_gmt":"2020-08-18T14:57:21","slug":"ask-brittany-bridesmaids-telling-truth","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marry.maosi.link\/blog\/ask-brittany-bridesmaids-telling-truth\/","title":{"rendered":"Ask Brittany: Are my bridesmaids telling me the truth?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Without downplaying how much of a problem this actually is for you, it\u2019s not the worst problem to have. There are so many details and things to be organized, if you have a great group of girls around you not causing any more headaches, I would appreciate them.<\/p>\n

If I can read in between the lines here, it sounds like you just need help. When swimming through the pool of all the choices and preparations of wedding planning, you can quickly start to feel like you\u2019re drowning\u2014and you\u2019re right in that your bridesmaids are there to help you through it. If everything is a \u201cyes\u201d it can feel like they’re throwing buckets of water into the pool instead of a life saver. I imagine they are trying to be respectful of the fact that this is \u201cyour day\u201d and should look how you want it to look. It\u2019s okay to let them know you don\u2019t have it all figured out yet.<\/p>\n

When it comes to the things you really do need help with, make sure you are asking directly.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I would advise you to really think about what is important. Are you feeling pressure to pick a bridesmaid dress they actually like or one you actually like? Are their dresses all that important to you? I ask because there will be bigger fish to fry. Don\u2019t spin your wheels making sure your bridesmaids mean what they say. If you asked and they said yes, the case is closed. They will have to deal with their own feelings when it\u2019s time to wear the dress if they weren\u2019t being truthful. Another option, if what is really important to you that your girls feel comfortable and beautiful on your day, let them pick their own dresses that are within a certain style or color you choose. This can also help with costs.<\/p>\n

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Finally, when it comes to the things you really do need help with, make sure you are asking directly. Try to avoid closed ended questions which will inevitably just end in more yeses. Do you like this dress? Is a closed ended question because you can only respond with a yes or no. Try asking open ended questions that will start a dialogue like, “Ideally, what style dress would you like to wear?” Or, “Is there a color that you hate?” If it comes to it, ask them to throw you a lifesaver when you need it: \u201cGirls, I\u2019m feeling really overwhelmed with _________. Can you give me honest feedback?\u201d Hopefully, a call to action will snap them out of yes mode.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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